In years past there has been talk of “choice”. When it comes to flavors of ice cream it’s great to consider the options. When it comes to gender, we all better conform, right? I don’t think so.
What does “choice” mean? In the area of sexuality, some in the Church have barrowed the concept of “learned behavioral response”, and have really done an injustice to the human race. Learned behavioral response is simply the act of learning to respond to an act or set of circumstances. Consider a situation involving your childhood. You were never allowed to have friends over to your house because they might make a mess. You grow up, get married, and your spouse wants to invite company over. It really makes you uncomfortable and you resist. “Honey, why can’t we ever have company?”, they ask. You have long forgotten the rule of your childhood. So, if you have forgotten, are you really making a clear choice? Where is the free will?
Now let’s consider “genetic predisposition”, the way we are hard-wired genetically. My taste buds like chocolate ice cream and yours like vanilla. My optic nerve likes the color blue and yours likes red. You like sports and I like sewing. You like the opposite sex and I like the same sex, or dressing differently, or thinking differently, or loving differently.
Who did you want to be when you grew up? There are some things we get to choose and there are other things, through creation, that are chosen by God.
Let’s support one another, exploring human issues and advocating the right to be honest with ourselves, with our families, in the Church and in the world.
It takes a lot of guts to be honest about the simplest things sometimes. Do we share what we believe, or hide? God is with us.